I love this one!
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.”
― Johnny Cash
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
Rocking my new Kate Spade readers:)
I love, love, love my new readers and what a great deal I got on them... Kate Spade readers for only $19.99 at Nordstrom Rack... can I get a woot woot!!!
Sunday, February 23, 2014
Grain of Salt... AND Pepper
I was talking to someone the other day about something someone had said to me that had ruffled my fabulous feathers a wee bit. At the end of my story my friend with whom I was talking looked at me and shook her head and said "grain of salt". Now I value this person's opinion and perspective a great deal which is why I was discussing the matter with her in the first place. I am a smart woman so I already try to live by the "grain of salt" theory and I try to take unimportant things in life with a "grain of salt". For some reason I just couldn't take this occurrence that lightly and just brush it off and move on so my friends advice left me a little perplexed. I knew I shouldn't let this bother me so why was I letting it bother me?
After much thought I came to the conclusion that there were large portions of the feather ruffling incident that were easy to let go and I did. But there were some things that the feather ruffler had said that left me feeling quite uneasy. That's when I decided that there must be a second part to the "grain of salt" theory because not everything is worthy of just forgetting about and moving on with your life as if it never happened. Actually, I think it is vital to have an open file in the back of your brain where you store these things that are important but that are not worthy of further actions or thoughts immediately. I call this file my "pepper" file. So now I take things with a "grain of salt AND pepper". The unimportant things go over my shoulder in the form of a "grain of salt" and the things that matter (or are hot) go into my "pepper" file where I can access them for future reference if needed.
Let me give you an example. I once dated a guy who was straight out of a Dateline story! He was a compulsive liar but oh so smooth. Unfortunately I was not the first or last woman this cassanova wannabe fooled into believing he was madly in love with only to rob blind behind ours backs. I won't go into details because he really isn't worth of another second of my time. However, some of the stuff he did to me is stored in my "pepper" file (like telling me he had cancer when I tried to break up with him so I would let him stay, only to find out that was all a lie... who does that, right?). By no means do I think all men are always lying to me as a result of this isolated incident but I am slightly more cautious when dating now. For instance if a date tells me he owns his own house I just prefer to fact check (I look it up on the internet... it's fast and easy to do). As a matter of fact I highly recommend that in any new relationship with someone who you have just met you should always proceed with caution. Take it from me that just because words come out of someone's mouth or it is on the internet, that doesn't make it true! I am not saying to be distrusting I am just saying don't be naive.
Another good example is the feather ruffler from before. I had known this person for roughly six months and she had always been quiet and demure but during this particular incident she was asking me to do something that I could not do. Out of nowhere she turned on a dime and went all Carrie on me. Her new persona took me by complete surprise and I had no idea what do make of the whole situation which is why I wanted to talk to my friend who was a mutual acquaintance. When the mutual friend said "grain of salt" she followed by saying that was not who that person was and I should not judge her by that one occurrence. So I had to think about it because what I had seen was nothing short of frightening and mutual acquaintance had never seen that side of feather ruffler before. Mutual acquaintance was mostly right and I did take the bulk of the incident and throw it over my shoulder (behind my back where I would never see it again... grain of salt) and I still look at feather ruffler as I did before that incident . But let me tell you, the whole Carrie scene went straight into the "pepper" file. Trust and believe that I will never be caught alone in a room full of knives with feather ruffler:)
One other thing I would recommend is that if you are holding on to things that are not important and don't really matter (or shouldn't matter) to you, release those things. Life is too short to dwell on things that don't matter... grain of salt. For things you can't let go open up a "pepper" file, file them away, and move on.
Thanks for reading! NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
After much thought I came to the conclusion that there were large portions of the feather ruffling incident that were easy to let go and I did. But there were some things that the feather ruffler had said that left me feeling quite uneasy. That's when I decided that there must be a second part to the "grain of salt" theory because not everything is worthy of just forgetting about and moving on with your life as if it never happened. Actually, I think it is vital to have an open file in the back of your brain where you store these things that are important but that are not worthy of further actions or thoughts immediately. I call this file my "pepper" file. So now I take things with a "grain of salt AND pepper". The unimportant things go over my shoulder in the form of a "grain of salt" and the things that matter (or are hot) go into my "pepper" file where I can access them for future reference if needed.
Let me give you an example. I once dated a guy who was straight out of a Dateline story! He was a compulsive liar but oh so smooth. Unfortunately I was not the first or last woman this cassanova wannabe fooled into believing he was madly in love with only to rob blind behind ours backs. I won't go into details because he really isn't worth of another second of my time. However, some of the stuff he did to me is stored in my "pepper" file (like telling me he had cancer when I tried to break up with him so I would let him stay, only to find out that was all a lie... who does that, right?). By no means do I think all men are always lying to me as a result of this isolated incident but I am slightly more cautious when dating now. For instance if a date tells me he owns his own house I just prefer to fact check (I look it up on the internet... it's fast and easy to do). As a matter of fact I highly recommend that in any new relationship with someone who you have just met you should always proceed with caution. Take it from me that just because words come out of someone's mouth or it is on the internet, that doesn't make it true! I am not saying to be distrusting I am just saying don't be naive.
Another good example is the feather ruffler from before. I had known this person for roughly six months and she had always been quiet and demure but during this particular incident she was asking me to do something that I could not do. Out of nowhere she turned on a dime and went all Carrie on me. Her new persona took me by complete surprise and I had no idea what do make of the whole situation which is why I wanted to talk to my friend who was a mutual acquaintance. When the mutual friend said "grain of salt" she followed by saying that was not who that person was and I should not judge her by that one occurrence. So I had to think about it because what I had seen was nothing short of frightening and mutual acquaintance had never seen that side of feather ruffler before. Mutual acquaintance was mostly right and I did take the bulk of the incident and throw it over my shoulder (behind my back where I would never see it again... grain of salt) and I still look at feather ruffler as I did before that incident . But let me tell you, the whole Carrie scene went straight into the "pepper" file. Trust and believe that I will never be caught alone in a room full of knives with feather ruffler:)
One other thing I would recommend is that if you are holding on to things that are not important and don't really matter (or shouldn't matter) to you, release those things. Life is too short to dwell on things that don't matter... grain of salt. For things you can't let go open up a "pepper" file, file them away, and move on.
Thanks for reading! NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
Saturday, February 22, 2014
Turn Discouragement Into Determination
No matter how intelligent, focused, or positive you are, sometimes
things happen that are going to bring you down. The attitude and
actions you choose when you find yourself in a negative place are up to
you. I will use myself as an example. For anyone who knows me or who
has been reading my blogs, you know that I have struggled with my weight
in recent years. Instead of facing my issues and dealing with the
emotions that were directly linked to how I was feeling about myself because of
my weight, I chose to ignore that elephant in the room. I actually
embraced the elephant as part of the family like he was supposed to be
there. Before long that elephant was my only friend (besides Ben and
Jerry). It's a lonely life when you surround yourself with negativity
and let the negative emotions consume you. There was a time that I
didn't even remember that I wasn't always like that so I was just going
about my life believing that being alone, overweight and unhappy were
just my new normal.
One day I woke up and realized THERE IS A FREAKING ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM and it's not normal! That's when I realized that I had to start making better choices and make some changes and quick before I ended up spending my days knitting sweaters for my 20 cats to pass the time while I was waiting to die. Ain't nobody got time for that, especially me. Luckily I have been blessed to have had many amazing people in my life over the years who have either inspired, encouraged or enlightened me. For all of those people I want to say thank you a million times over because without you I would not be where I am or who I am today.
I want my happily ever after and the only person who can make that happen is this girl and I am on it! There is no one or nothing that is going to stop me. Now when I am getting dressed for the day and my jeans are too tight or my garage door won't open or what ever other discouraging thing happens, I just turn that emotion from discouragement to determination. If my jeans are too tight it just makes me determined to make better choices in regards to my diet and exercise for the day. Two weeks ago I went to leave for work and my garage door only opened half way. I became determined to fix it myself and I did fix it and I felt amazing afterward! Every baby step that I take that is a success just gives me the positive reinforcement that I need to keep going and never look back.
I wrote a poem many years ago and my favorite line is "scairdy cats are afraid of goblins, ghouls and ghosts... cowards are afraid of the things that matter the most". I have been afraid of everyone seeing me fail so I retreated and became defeated. I don't want to be a coward anymore and I don't want to hide anymore. I want to make everyday fabulous and full of life, hope and happiness. This sassy, classy chick is determined to succeed and nothing is going to stop me! I just always have to remember, don't get discouraged, get determined!
Thanks for letting me share my story with you and thank you for being here, now and always! NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
If you want to feel happy you should watch this video! I LOVE IT!!!
One day I woke up and realized THERE IS A FREAKING ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM and it's not normal! That's when I realized that I had to start making better choices and make some changes and quick before I ended up spending my days knitting sweaters for my 20 cats to pass the time while I was waiting to die. Ain't nobody got time for that, especially me. Luckily I have been blessed to have had many amazing people in my life over the years who have either inspired, encouraged or enlightened me. For all of those people I want to say thank you a million times over because without you I would not be where I am or who I am today.
I want my happily ever after and the only person who can make that happen is this girl and I am on it! There is no one or nothing that is going to stop me. Now when I am getting dressed for the day and my jeans are too tight or my garage door won't open or what ever other discouraging thing happens, I just turn that emotion from discouragement to determination. If my jeans are too tight it just makes me determined to make better choices in regards to my diet and exercise for the day. Two weeks ago I went to leave for work and my garage door only opened half way. I became determined to fix it myself and I did fix it and I felt amazing afterward! Every baby step that I take that is a success just gives me the positive reinforcement that I need to keep going and never look back.
I wrote a poem many years ago and my favorite line is "scairdy cats are afraid of goblins, ghouls and ghosts... cowards are afraid of the things that matter the most". I have been afraid of everyone seeing me fail so I retreated and became defeated. I don't want to be a coward anymore and I don't want to hide anymore. I want to make everyday fabulous and full of life, hope and happiness. This sassy, classy chick is determined to succeed and nothing is going to stop me! I just always have to remember, don't get discouraged, get determined!
Thanks for letting me share my story with you and thank you for being here, now and always! NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
If you want to feel happy you should watch this video! I LOVE IT!!!
Thursday, February 20, 2014
Date Like You Deserve It!
Are
you tired of seeing other people that you see as being less attractive,
less financially secure, etc. in a happy, successful relationship as
you sip coffee at the table next to them while trying to decide what to
name your new cat????? If this is you... read on!!!!
In dating there should be no rules that you have to follow! Isn't dating hard enough without having to lug some book around with you? I am going to break this down as simply as I can so that you can get on with dating yet stay true to yourself while trying to attain your relationship goals and at the same time retain your dating dignity!
My whole life I have thought men cared about your looks, your weight, how successful you are etc. The truth is they could care less about any of that stuff. They want exactly the same thing women want which is someone who makes them feel good. Don't get me wrong, if you change your name to ESPN that might not hurt but it just simply boils down to how they feel when they are around you. Men want to feel special. We know that they are "special" but they want to feel appreciated. Men want to buy you dinner and trim your trees so they can feel like the provider and the protector and you need to let them! When they have done something nice for you show your appreciation. Be happy and positive and someone that a man wants to be around. That is all they want. As women we overthink and overanalyze way too much and it can get in the way of a great relationship. When you are with a man trust me he is not thinking "Damn, her calves are a little too big for me to continue dating her". Men are not complicated. Quite the opposite actually. We make them complicated. Frankly a man isn't replaying every word that was said between you on your last date or silently critiquing your thighs. All he knows is he either feels good when he is around you and he wants to continue to be around you or he is indifferent to you and he will eventually move on. That's not to say that if you feel like you should lose 10 pounds that you shouldn't try to achieve that goal. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else! The point is not to obsess over small stuff because men don't really care about that stuff in the grand scheme of things. Sometimes we use excuses about things such as needing to lose a few pounds as an excuse as to why we are not finding a good relationship. If you lose the 10 pounds and you still do not find a mate then you could really beat yourself up and see yourself as a total failure. And if you lose 10 pounds you have been successful in something that is extremely difficult and should pat yourself on the back. Focus on your successes, not your failures. Stay positive and strong and eventually you will find what you are looking for!
Men and women alike are drawn to people who are happy and positive. Those are the people we all want to be around. The same holds true for dating. It is important to find someone who makes you feel good and vice versa. Most of the time you know how the relationship is going. If the relationship is moving forward, as it should be, then you know this because you will meet their friends, family etc. and incorporate one another into each others lives. On the flip side, if the relationship is stagnate or moving backward, as hard as it may be to accept, you know that as well. This phase of a doomed relationship is where most women go into denial, and yes I am oh-so guilty of this myself from time to time, and try to hold onto something that just does not exist except in your mind. Just because you like someone or have enjoyed getting to know someone doesn't mean that you have to stay in that particular relationship forever. If you want to find the right life partner you need to know when to stay and when to move on. Life is too short to overstay a relationship. A lot of times when the newness of a relationship wears off you will be able to assess the relationship fairly. You can assess a relationship at anytime and should if you are having any doubts at all... ever! If someone is making you unhappy more than they are making you happy then it is time to part ways and move on... PERIOD!!!!!!!! Do not overanalyze your decision because trust me when you break it off with the guy they just go have beers with their buddies and watch sports while you sit at home trying to overanalyze what went wrong and what you could have done differently. Instead be glad for the time you had with that person, keep smiling, and remind yourself that there is someone out there for everyone. You deserve the fairytale and should NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE!
Please keep in mind that I am not a professional. There are no rules or magic spells that will make your Prince Charming fall into your hands like putty! The only thing I do know is that you have to be true to yourself. Most importantly have fun and enjoy life.
Always remember, the only person who can make you happy is you!
Thanks for reading my blog NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
In dating there should be no rules that you have to follow! Isn't dating hard enough without having to lug some book around with you? I am going to break this down as simply as I can so that you can get on with dating yet stay true to yourself while trying to attain your relationship goals and at the same time retain your dating dignity!
My whole life I have thought men cared about your looks, your weight, how successful you are etc. The truth is they could care less about any of that stuff. They want exactly the same thing women want which is someone who makes them feel good. Don't get me wrong, if you change your name to ESPN that might not hurt but it just simply boils down to how they feel when they are around you. Men want to feel special. We know that they are "special" but they want to feel appreciated. Men want to buy you dinner and trim your trees so they can feel like the provider and the protector and you need to let them! When they have done something nice for you show your appreciation. Be happy and positive and someone that a man wants to be around. That is all they want. As women we overthink and overanalyze way too much and it can get in the way of a great relationship. When you are with a man trust me he is not thinking "Damn, her calves are a little too big for me to continue dating her". Men are not complicated. Quite the opposite actually. We make them complicated. Frankly a man isn't replaying every word that was said between you on your last date or silently critiquing your thighs. All he knows is he either feels good when he is around you and he wants to continue to be around you or he is indifferent to you and he will eventually move on. That's not to say that if you feel like you should lose 10 pounds that you shouldn't try to achieve that goal. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone else! The point is not to obsess over small stuff because men don't really care about that stuff in the grand scheme of things. Sometimes we use excuses about things such as needing to lose a few pounds as an excuse as to why we are not finding a good relationship. If you lose the 10 pounds and you still do not find a mate then you could really beat yourself up and see yourself as a total failure. And if you lose 10 pounds you have been successful in something that is extremely difficult and should pat yourself on the back. Focus on your successes, not your failures. Stay positive and strong and eventually you will find what you are looking for!
Men and women alike are drawn to people who are happy and positive. Those are the people we all want to be around. The same holds true for dating. It is important to find someone who makes you feel good and vice versa. Most of the time you know how the relationship is going. If the relationship is moving forward, as it should be, then you know this because you will meet their friends, family etc. and incorporate one another into each others lives. On the flip side, if the relationship is stagnate or moving backward, as hard as it may be to accept, you know that as well. This phase of a doomed relationship is where most women go into denial, and yes I am oh-so guilty of this myself from time to time, and try to hold onto something that just does not exist except in your mind. Just because you like someone or have enjoyed getting to know someone doesn't mean that you have to stay in that particular relationship forever. If you want to find the right life partner you need to know when to stay and when to move on. Life is too short to overstay a relationship. A lot of times when the newness of a relationship wears off you will be able to assess the relationship fairly. You can assess a relationship at anytime and should if you are having any doubts at all... ever! If someone is making you unhappy more than they are making you happy then it is time to part ways and move on... PERIOD!!!!!!!! Do not overanalyze your decision because trust me when you break it off with the guy they just go have beers with their buddies and watch sports while you sit at home trying to overanalyze what went wrong and what you could have done differently. Instead be glad for the time you had with that person, keep smiling, and remind yourself that there is someone out there for everyone. You deserve the fairytale and should NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU DESERVE!
Please keep in mind that I am not a professional. There are no rules or magic spells that will make your Prince Charming fall into your hands like putty! The only thing I do know is that you have to be true to yourself. Most importantly have fun and enjoy life.
Always remember, the only person who can make you happy is you!
Thanks for reading my blog NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
M is for Morning Motivation
I used to find it so hard to get out of bed and get going in the morning. My alarm would go off and I would hit snooze 5 times (or more) before I wouId eventually drag myself out of bed. Even then I would just dread starting my day because I knew that meant going through the same thing day in and day out. i just couldn't understand how anyone could be a "morning person". When every day is like groundhog day where is the motivation?
Now I totally get it because I am a "morning person". I heard the phraseI "It's never too late to have a happy life" and somehow that just triggered something in my brain. I never thought I was unhappy but I realized I was just existing and I decided that I want to live, not just exist!
Starting your day off in a positive way is imperative to making your day a success. I now have Pandora radio set as my alarm clock (if you have the app it comes with an alarm clock and the app is free if you don't already have it). This morning the song on my alarm was Prince's "I Would Die For You". Prince radio is one of my faves because I am an 80's girl so that is my choice and I wake up in a good mood every morning just by hearing music I love to start my day. I continue to play Pandora until it is time for my workout and after my workout and I play it while I am getting ready for my day,
Another thing that really gets me going in the morning is getting up early. It is a great feeling to get a lot of stuff accomplished first thing in the morning when most people are sleeping their life away. Get a jump start on your day and get up an hour earlier to work on things you tend to put off later in the day. This helps eliminated excuses and gives you a feeling of accomplishment first thing in the morning. What a great way to start your day. I try to pack lunches for myself and my son the night before so I don't have to be rushed in the mornings and I go to bed early so I am refreshed in the morning instead of tired and grumpy.
If music doesn't get you in a good mood find what works for you. There must be something that can get you pumped for the day. Find your thing and do it! One other thing I like to do is play games on my phone if I am having a hard time waking up. I will play Words With Friends, Scramble or Words of Wonder just to give my brain a kick start.
I am certain that if you get up in the morning and start your day off strong and in a positive way, whatever way works best for you, you will feel better all day! I challenge you to try this for a week if you don't already have a habit of morning motivation. If you have things that inspire and motivate you, please feel free to share and post your comments. Let's keep each other motivated!!
Thanks for reading my post NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
Now I totally get it because I am a "morning person". I heard the phraseI "It's never too late to have a happy life" and somehow that just triggered something in my brain. I never thought I was unhappy but I realized I was just existing and I decided that I want to live, not just exist!
Starting your day off in a positive way is imperative to making your day a success. I now have Pandora radio set as my alarm clock (if you have the app it comes with an alarm clock and the app is free if you don't already have it). This morning the song on my alarm was Prince's "I Would Die For You". Prince radio is one of my faves because I am an 80's girl so that is my choice and I wake up in a good mood every morning just by hearing music I love to start my day. I continue to play Pandora until it is time for my workout and after my workout and I play it while I am getting ready for my day,
Another thing that really gets me going in the morning is getting up early. It is a great feeling to get a lot of stuff accomplished first thing in the morning when most people are sleeping their life away. Get a jump start on your day and get up an hour earlier to work on things you tend to put off later in the day. This helps eliminated excuses and gives you a feeling of accomplishment first thing in the morning. What a great way to start your day. I try to pack lunches for myself and my son the night before so I don't have to be rushed in the mornings and I go to bed early so I am refreshed in the morning instead of tired and grumpy.
If music doesn't get you in a good mood find what works for you. There must be something that can get you pumped for the day. Find your thing and do it! One other thing I like to do is play games on my phone if I am having a hard time waking up. I will play Words With Friends, Scramble or Words of Wonder just to give my brain a kick start.
I am certain that if you get up in the morning and start your day off strong and in a positive way, whatever way works best for you, you will feel better all day! I challenge you to try this for a week if you don't already have a habit of morning motivation. If you have things that inspire and motivate you, please feel free to share and post your comments. Let's keep each other motivated!!
Thanks for reading my post NOW GO HAVE A FABULOUS DAY!!!
Tuesday, February 18, 2014
Well Hello!!!!
I love this blog and if you have read any of my posts, I think you have probably realized that I am really working on self-improvement. This blog has totally helped me to examine myself and where I have been and where I want to be. I have not posted for a while because I have been busy in my life going out and making things happen. One thing that I have done is decide that my inside is pretty good right now so I need to start on the outside as well. In order to achieve the goal of making my outside better and becoming healthier, I decided to try the Beach Body workout by Shaun T. called Focus T25. And in keeping true to my desire to become a blogger, I decided to document this journey on another blog. Today I wrote about my second day of workouts on that blog. I hope you will read today's post "Day Two: Speed 1.0".
Thanks again for reading my blog. Now go have a fabulous day!!!
Thanks again for reading my blog. Now go have a fabulous day!!!
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